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*sigh* THIS is some bullshit...

Hair Update #1

So it's been 3 months since I started Operation Hair Growth. In that time, I have started a regimen, slacked off, started it again LOL! I have only had one touch up in this time frame and that was at 10 weeks post. I could have went longer but I was going on a trip. I also had a trim when I got my touchup. She took off quite a bit since I hadn't had one in a while. She told me that now I'm starting from a good base and that my next trim won't be as bad.

Here is my first photo. My hair seemed to be *just* grazing my shoulders.

This photo is exactly 3 months later. I took it this morning. I look like a dork. LOL!

Can you see a difference? I think I can...a little bit. I can't help but think that if it didn't need to be cut, I could have seen a lot more length. But health over length...I have to keep telling myself that.

This photo is a closeup of my right temple. See all that scalp? Not a good look. I think it's thin there because I have been wrapping my hair for 15 years. Do they have a Hair Club for Black Girls Who Wrap? I need that...

Hahahahah, that picture is big as hell! LOL!

Anyway, leave your thoughts in the comments. Later!

Bool. Shit.

So, I'm driving home last night after work. Riding along on the freeway, listening to the radio, singing along with Alicia Keys. All of a sudden:

BUMP-BALUMP-BUMP-BUMP

BUMP-BALUMP-BUMP-BUMP

I'm looking around like "Damn, somebody's car sound FUCKED up."

Out of nowhere my steering wheel starts pulling to the left. What in the hell?

BUMP-BUMP-BUMP!!!

BUMP-BUMP-BUMP!!!

Then I start to smell burning rubber.

I know I don't have a...

Yup, sure did. I got a damn flat tire in the middle of rush hour.
Actually, I got a damn shredded tire. I don't know what the hell happened but when I finally pulled over to the side it looked like King Kong had chewed on my shit.

I sit there for a moment in disbelief and then pick up the phone and call my insurance company. Find out from them that as much as I pay them every month, I don't have roadside assistance. That's some boolshit.

Now, I'm not some helpless female. I know how to change a tire. As much of a piece of shit as my last car was, I had to know. But I was by myself, it was cold and I wasn't in the best of neighborhoods. So, I called D. Long story short, he was bowling and in the middle of a game so he didn't want to leave. ***BREAKING NEWS BUT NOT REALLY*** D and I are not together so I couldn't even be mad. Only boyfriends come and rescue their girlfriends, right?
I know, I know...I owe yall one hell of a post about that situation. It's coming...

Anyway, got off the phone with D and called my Daddy. He said he'd be on his way. Who needs a boyfriend when you have your Daddy? LOL He got me all fixed up and told me to come to the house to eat. Free food? Yessir.

So, I have to buy a new tire today. Actually, my Daddy said that I need two. *sigh* More money out of my Christmas budget. It could have been four tires though so praise Jesus that it wasn't.

Work, work, work, gotta go. Have a good weekend!

I'm Rets Ta Go!

It's 4:33 and I am sooooooooooo ready to go home. D is bowling tonight and I really love having the house to myself. I have DVR'd 45 years worth of What Not To Wear, Extreme Makeover, Dr. 90210 and The Wedding Story. I cannot watch this shit when he is at home. All I hear is lip smacking and "Huhhhhh, do we have to watch this?!" He's a hater.

He hates when I eat...well wait first...my name is Monie and I am a David's Sunflower Seeds addict. Hi Monie. D HATES when I eat them. Don't ask me why he just bought me a bag. That shit makes zero sense.

Ooh, What Not To Wear and sunflower seeds. Hot muthafuggin damn!

What's the difference between an excuse and a reason?

For real?! Really?! The beard action is getting a bit out of control, Drew-sama bin Laden.

For the past two weeks, I have been working out every day. Well, I missed a few days (maybe 3) but it's been "every day" for the past two weeks. I read in one of my Oprah mags that interval training for at least 25-30 minutes every other day has been proven to provide healthy weight loss. And I actually did notice when I used to do this a few years ago, I saw some results.
I figure that if I can't take my ass down the driveway to the fitness center to work out for only 25 damn minutes, I am the laziest bastard in the world and I need to hang myself.
So far so good. 25 minutes is nothing and I feel great afterwards. My endurance could be better so I hope this helps with that too.

Why am I still wearing ballet flats in December? Better than my BFF who wears flip flops "til the snow hits". Tash, am I right or am I right?! LOL!

I have to buy the rest of the gifts tonight for our company Holiday Party that is this coming Saturday. Jesus be some restraint because I am about to wear the hell out of this American Express card!

I haven't had a period since September. Early September. Put your eyebrows down! I have failed 6 preg tests so that ain't it. I'm pretty sure that it has to do with the B.C. pills I was taking. I was broke one month so I didn't re-up my expensive ass prescription. That threw my body all out of wack (my gyno warned me about this) and hence...no period. I am due for my yearly exam but I don't wanna go. I just know that all that poking and prodding is gonna cause an avalanche and I have been digging being period free. *sigh* Must do it though...DAMN!

It Is Not A Game

Update to the story I posted about a few weeks ago. Reginald Potts has been charged with first degree murder in the Nailah Franklin case. I knew in my heart that he killed her. This is not a surprise at all but it's just so crazy to me. As I told yall, a good friend of mine recently had a child by this "man" so this story hit close to home. Couple that with the fact that when I stepped up to defend her, he called me at my job and threatened me. For those that didn't know, that is the reason why I removed the picture of my face from this blog as well as the link to my birthday list with my real name.

Anyway, here's the latest news story. Ladies, I beg you, PLEASE BE CAREFUL!

In the last two days of Nailah Franklin's life, Reginald Potts stalked her, lurking in the hallways and parking garage of her condo building, prosecutors alleged Monday.

Surveillance tape of Potts in the building, statements of witnesses, including his friends, and cell phone records all point to him as Franklin's killer, authorities said.

Potts, 31, could face the death penalty if convicted of murdering Franklin, 28. At his first court appearance since being charged, he was ordered held without bail by Judge Don Panarese.

"It was premeditated," First Assistant State's Attorney Robert Milan said after the hearing. "This defendant went through a lot of trouble and time in order to take Ms. Franklin out to an abandoned area -- a desolate area -- and take her life."

Franklin, a pharmaceutical rep for Eli Lilly, had an "on-and-off dating relationship" with Potts, Milan told Panarese. But Franklin tried to end it, sources said.

In early September, Franklin sent an e-mail to friends discussing Potts' criminal past, Milan said. When Potts found out, he made threatening calls to her. "He told her he could have her erased," Milan said.

On Sept. 10, Franklin filed a police report. She also told friends she was afraid of Potts and gave a friend her e-mail password "in case anything happened to her," Milan said. She was last seen alive Sept. 18.

Potts told police he hadn't seen Franklin since August. But several residents at Franklin's University Village condo saw Potts "lurking in the victim's hallway and in the parking garage on the evenings of Sept. 16th and 17th," Milan said. Surveillance video from the building also shows Potts on Sept. 17 and 18, Milan said.

"That stuff is really hard to deal with -- to know that she was considered prey," said Franklin's sister, Lehia Franklin Acox.

Cell phone records show Potts was within a half mile of Franklin's condo on Sept. 18, in spite of his story he was elsewhere, Milan said.

Cell records also trace Potts heading south on the Dan Ryan shortly after 7 p.m., a time when he claimed he was at Target with friends, Milan said. The records show Potts and Franklin were both near 159th Street in Calumet City, where her pharmaceuticals and jewelry were later found, he said.

The cell records depict Potts and Franklin traveling east in Calumet City at the same time that night, and show them both in the area where Franklin's body was later found, Milan said.

After dumping Franklin's body, Potts kept her cell phone and drove her car to Hammond, Ind., where he left it, Milan said.

Potts then called one of his friends who was at Target and said "he was stranded and needed a ride," Milan said. Two friends drove to Hammond to pick him up. On the way back, Potts made three aborted 911 calls from Franklin's cell phone to make it look like she was still alive, Milan said.

I'm An Asshole

On the first Friday of every month, my boss buys all the employees lunch. We call it our "First Friday" celebration. Today, I bought Panera for everyone. Mmmmm!
My boss and a few managers are out of town this week. I happen to know that our Operations Manager loves when I get Panera for First Friday.
I decided to take a sheet of paper and draw a carton of soup and a sandwich on it. It was very crude. I can't draw for shit. The sandwich was a triangle with a wavy line on an outside edge. That was the lettuce. I drew a small ring sticking out above the lettuce. That was the onion. I put little dots on the crust that were supposed to be sesame seeds. The carton of soup had wavy lines coming from the top. It was warm, ya know? I also put flavor choices on the front with little checkmarks so they could pick which kind of soup they had. I wrote "First Friday Lunch for *** and ******. Enjoy!" I then faxed it to them. LOL!
My boss was speaking to someone here on the phone when he got the fax. He was very amused. The Operations Manager emailed me and said lunch was fantastic.
Hahahahahahahaa! That shit is still cracking me up.

Shoe-A-Holic

I had to post again today. I went over to Tower City for lunch. I was looking for a cute gold dress or gold top. D's Dad is throwing himself a birthday party on Saturday and he's asking that everyone wear gold. Sounds like it'd be easy to find something but let me tell you I have had a helluva time. However, I did find a cute, satiny gold blouse today. At the last minute.

Anyway, I'm walking around Charlotte Russe, just to see if they had something that caught my eye. I'm looking in the shoe section and by the time I'm done looking, I'm holding about 7 pairs of shoes. Really ridiculous.

I start the mental weed-through process. "These are cute but I have nothing to wear them with and they are full price." "How much wear would I really get out of these?" "Now, you know these heels are entirely too low."

After this, I am down to two pairs of shoes. A gorgeous hot pink satin brocade pair with embroidered gold, blue and purple flowers with a shiny gold heel and a to-die-for pair of black patent heels with a peep toe and a bow on the back.

I am standing in line hemming and hawing (in my mind, of course) about whether I am going to get these shoes. They were both 20% off so that was good but sometimes I can be a cheap ass for no reason at all. How much sense does it make that I spent $49 on some shoes just days ago but am being retarded over these? NONE!

There's a lady in front of me in line (with a bad ass son - parents, PLEASE beat your kids) and she turns to me and says, "Ooh, you don't want to get that black pair. They get really uncomfortable after a while and my bow fell off the same night I wore them."

I immediately went to put them back while the clerk looked like she was about to jump over the counter and whoop this lady's ass. LOL!

I settled on the pink pair and I have been sitting at my desk admiring them. Let me just say, I am EXTREMELY pleased with my purchase. These shoes are the business. I don't have anything that I can think of to wear them with but at $11.50, who gives a rat's ass?!

In the summer, I can pair them with a fitted white sheath dress and a pink clutch. They'll go great with jeans or a pencil skirt. OOOOOH I am so happy!

You like?

IIIIIIIII know!!!!! What else can I wear them with???

P.S. and off-topic: I had Greek food for lunch today. Yum-fuckin-O! Grape leaves are the shit. Also, Anderson Varajeo is a dumbass, FYI.

I Wonder

Is it a sin that I used the lastest issue of WatchTower to clean the snow off my car this morning?
I'm not a Jehovah's Witness so that's cool, right?

I can't find my snow brush. I think D took it out of my car. Bastid.

The WatchTower was in my car because I got accosted while pumping gas the other day.

I'm standing there, minding my B.I., when I feel a presence other than my own. I felt someone entering my personal space but my back was turned toward them. Someone must be crazy. I put the longest key on my key chain (D's car key) between my fingers and turned around with the quickness. LOL! I live in the burbs but I was raised in the hood. That key could have caused some damage.

It was only a little Latina chick. She said she wanted to come and give me the latest issue of WatchTower because it's so hard to reach people in their homes (ya think?!) and there was a really good article in there.
I was tempted to toss it but I figured it would have been rude to do it in front of her so I just threw it my front seat. That little thing is sturdy. It cleaned my car off pretty well.

No offense to any Jehovah's Witnesses out there. I appreciate yall's hustle. = )

I Have a Headache

But that has nothing to do with today's blog. Just wanted to share that. LOL!

Anyway, I was driving home from work Friday evening and listening to the radio. Sam Silk (evening D.J. on 107.9 - Cleveland's BLAZING Hip Hop and R&B) has some segment on his show where someone calls in with a dilemma they are having and then other people call in to give their advice.
I didn't hear the dilemma call or any of the advice calls but from what was being said, this was the situation:
A man and a woman have a baby together. I guess they were together for a while but it didn't work out. Dude didn't have a car so baby momma took him to work whenever he needed. I guess dude moved on and started dating someone else and the baby momma found out by going through his phone. She got pissed and told him that she didn't want to take him to work anymore. I don't know if there's more to this but that's the gist of it.
Sam Silk's opinion was that the girl was wrong and that she should continue to take him to work. Francine (the lady who does the traffic) said that dude should have his own car and the baby momma is not obligated to take him to work any longer. These two knuckleheads got into a damn near shouting match over who was right and who was wrong. Sam told Francine that that's why she's single. LOL! It was kinda funny.

So I'm asking my readers...what do you think?

Here is my personal opinion:
Whether the dude has a car or not is irrelevant. She was with him when he didn't have a car so that doesn't matter.
To me, the baby momma just needs to keep it all the way funky and admit to herself that her JEALOUSY is the reason she doesn't want to take her ex-dude to work anymore. And I say jealousy because she had to go through his phone to even get the information that he was seeing someone else. When you are snooping through someone's stuff, there is a lack of trust there. Lack of trust...jealousy...they go hand in hand.
I think that she should continue to take him to work. It wasn't a problem when she thought he wasn't seeing someone else so really, it shouldn't be a problem now. I didn't get the impression that he was throwing it in her face...obviously not because she had to find the info through his phone. I would think that the whole shit would be uncomfortable enough where he would make moves to get his own car and only have to deal with his baby momma where it's concerning their child.
BUT, if she really has that much of a problem taking him to work in the future then she needs to be honest and tell him that. But I think that since they are co-parents of a child, she needs to be fair and reasonable. For example, she can tell him that she clearly still had feelings for him and maybe even thought that they were gonna get back together. Taking him to work would be difficult emotionally for her so she could tell him that he has a set amount of time to find another way to get there. Maybe a month or two.

The Monie of years ago would have agreed with Francine. Yes, that ninja should have his own shit! He better NOT be seeing someone else and I'm taking this ninja to work! LOL!

But as I have matured and grown older, I have the ability to see the bigger picture. As hard as it might be sometimes, you have to be honest with yourself and your feelings. Jealousy can make you do some crazy shit. You have to be grown enough to realize that and do what's HONEST and FAIR instead of what your crazy ass, jealousy filled brain is telling you.

My head is pounding so I'm about to find a dark office and take a nap. LOL! Later!